I’m a good Mother (and so are you)

www.naomigoodlet.com I’m far from perfect but I’m not afraid to admit that I do a pretty good job of raising my daughter, especially considering that my husband is out of the house for around 11 hours a day, I have no family supports nearby and I run a successful business. It can be difficult to say that you’re good at something, even just to yourself! It’s generally not the ‘done thing’ to declare publicly that you’re good at anything, but I’m not going to let that stop me. SO many women doubt their abilities as parents and are forever making negative comments about themselves or questioning their decisions.

What if all of them realised how amazing they actually are?

That’s you, I’m talking about, incredible mama! You and me and all of us. Regardless of whatever ‘bad mother’ stuff we’ve got going on, I’ll bet that we’ve all got this in common:

We love and care for our children and want life to be great for them.

We do the best we can to be present, attentive and caring with our children with the resources, time, energy and abilities we’ve got.

That there makes you a kick-ass woman!

Raising children is rewarding and great fun, but it can also be physically and emotionally exhausting! Let’s just take a minute to acknowledge the enormity of that! Some days I’m tired, cranky, short-tempered but there’s never any doubt about my devotion and love for my gorgeous one.

And my ‘bad’ parenting doesn’t end there… Sometimes I feed my daughter biscuits for lunch and watch TV all afternoon. Sometimes I get frustrated when she demands my attention while I’m trying to get something done. Sometimes I send her to childcare so that I can catch up on yoga  or visit a friend. Other times I drift off in my mind thinking about my business while we’re playing at the park.

But, I’m still taking her to the damn park! For all my lazy/distracted parenting methods, there are hours and hours of attentive play, teaching, adventures, hugs and loving care. I think that at-home-mums really just need to give ourselves a break, acknowledge that we’re going an amazing job and let go of mummy guilt!

www.naomigoodlet.com

If you’re with me, please share this post!

Leave a comment and tell me why you’re a great mother!

Being a first-time mama is an amazing experience. The New Mama Welcome Pack blog hop is a celebration of this life changing event! Follow the links to discover more unmissable advice, stories and essential tips. And if you’re a new mama who wants to rock motherhood without guilt, overwhelm or losing yourself, check out the New Mama Welcome Pack here.

New Mama Welcome Pack / Lotte Lane / Dreaming Aloud / Birthing in Conscious Choice / Natalie Garay /  Knecht Ruprecht / Lise Meijer / Naomi Goodlet / A Lifestyle By Design / Story of Mum / Like a Bird / Holistic Mama / Birth Geek / Joyful Parenting / Stroller Packing / My Healthy Beginning / Mums and More / Kate Beddow – Growing Spirits / Ellen Nightingale / Stacie Whitney / Maternity Leavers / Photography for Busy Parents / Close Enough To Kiss / Atelier Susana Tavares / Offbeat Family / Katie m. Berggren ~ Painting Motherhood / Winship Wellness Blog / Liberate From Weight / Jessica Cary / Raising Playful Tots / Peaceful Mothering / Play Activities / Lauren Nenna / The Adventure Mama / Be Wise Be Healthy /  Doula in Your Pocket / Making Mom Strong / Adrienn Csoknyay / Joyful Parents / Simple Solutions for Photos / Lynne Newman /  Mumpreneur Mentor / A Walk in the Clouds / Parenting on the Fence / MiaMily

Like this post? Please share it below, leave a comment and sign up to receive updates! (and my FREE Mindfulness E-book)

Subscribe to our mailing list

* indicates required Email Address * First Name *

39 Thoughts on “I’m a good Mother (and so are you)

  1. pippa @storyofmum on 7 April, 2014 at 5:39 pm said:

    I’m with you! I’m a good enough mama too, thank you for the reminder, Naomi xx

  2. Pingback: What I Wish I’d Known as a New Mama with Post Partum Depression

  3. Pingback: Babywearing - When You Are A First Time Mum | Close Enough to Kiss

  4. Michelle Dobbins on 8 April, 2014 at 6:53 pm said:

    Naomi, I love this! as a mother of 4 who works at home, sometimes I feel like I should solely focus on my children. I know that I spend a lot of time with them and I’m giving them a good role model of a happy mom who takes care of her own needs, too. I have to remember that I am a good mom!

    • Naomi Goodlet on 8 April, 2014 at 9:01 pm said:

      Thanks for commenting Michelle! OMG I only have one child and I feel like I’m doing a kick-ass job. You are seriously incredible!! Don’t let guilt creep in if you are keeping yourself sane – it is so important to put yourself first. I had always dreamed of having more children but I wasn’t prepared for how difficult it would be – even with just one!! Any tips??
      How much time do you get for your business?

      • Michelle Dobbins on 8 April, 2014 at 10:30 pm said:

        Naomi, My kids are a bit older now, they are ages 8,9,9 & 14. When the three youngest were in diapers,well, lets just say those are the days we don’t speak of lol. I decided to start focusing more on my writing and creating a business when my youngest entered Kindergarten. It’s been a slow process, but I’m OK with that. We decided to homeschool this year, so I have a Spanish speaking tutor who comes in 18 hours a week so I can work and the kids get a second language. I figure I’ll do what I can while enjoying my children and someday I’ll have lots more time. Then, I’ll probably wish I still had little ones running about calling mommy while I write. Maybe.

        • Naomi Goodlet on 9 April, 2014 at 4:10 am said:

          Ha! @ not speaking about the hard times 🙂
          I love reading your story. I’m massively inspired by women like you!

  5. I love this! I was talking to my 10 year old the other day about why parents feed their children meat if it’s not good for them (please note, though we are vegetarian I have never actually used those words, not good for them) and I explained to her that while I believe we don’t require meat in our diet not everyone agrees. I went on to explain to her that EVERY parent, does what he/she thinks is the best thing for their children and we need to honour and respect that. Every parent (and indeed person) is always doing the best that they can in any given moment with the information and knowledge that they have. xx

    • Naomi Goodlet on 9 April, 2014 at 4:09 am said:

      So true. Every parent does the best they can and every parent makes mistakes, it’s ok! We learn as we go along. Thanks for sharing your story.

  6. Petrea Hansen-Adamidis on 9 April, 2014 at 3:35 am said:

    I fight with the guilt monster alot- but have gotten better at it over the years. What I have learned is to accept my imperfections as a parent and realize that these too are important lessons for my kids to learn. I am a great mom because of these imperfections the way I see it. It is a life long process of learning!

  7. shishilii on 9 April, 2014 at 11:57 am said:

    Confession: I signed up my daughter for daycare at 15 months just so i can have mornings back. It’s hard to find time to start a business especially with a young baby!

    • Naomi Goodlet on 9 April, 2014 at 10:54 pm said:

      That’s nothing to feel guilty about! My daughter started day care at 15 months too and it’s been great for her – she learns so much there and she really loves it. Congratulations on putting yourself first!

  8. Jessica Cary on 9 April, 2014 at 1:38 pm said:

    Love this! On most rational levels, I know I’m a good mom. But, then there are THOSE DAYS when I feel like I can’t do anything “right.” Your post is a great reminder to me to honor myself and all the work I do/have done – and cut myself some slack. Thank you!

    • Naomi Goodlet on 9 April, 2014 at 10:55 pm said:

      Yes, please cut yourself some slack – lots of it. You are doing an amazing job and you will be kinder to yourself and you children when you remember this!

  9. Kathy White on 9 April, 2014 at 2:44 pm said:

    Hi Naomi, I’m a good mother because I am willing to apologise to my kids (and myself) when I’m not, I’m able to laugh at all my mistakes, because I married a GREAT man (who can take over when I run out of steam), because I love my kids and I’m courageous and willing to go against the grain when it comes to raising children. I’m a good mother to myself first and my kids second…oooh like the flow of this…thanks for being part of the new mama blog hop – my 7 tips for new mamas and papas are on http://www.joyfulparents.co.uk/new-parents/ with some thoughts on how to stay joyful in the face of all the new baby overwhelm ! love Kathy

    • Naomi Goodlet on 9 April, 2014 at 10:56 pm said:

      Thanks Kathy. I love your story. Self forgiveness is a great way to stay sane without dragging guilt along with you. Say sorry, forgive and move on! It sounds like your doing an incredible job. Loved your blog too. x

  10. Pingback: Three things you should embrace as a new mother - Play Activities

  11. Pingback: Be brave….new mama | Raising Playful Tots

  12. Such a lovely reminder!

  13. creativestatic on 28 April, 2014 at 10:20 pm said:

    Amen!! 🙂 It’s so easy to get caught up in the guilt trap, but you’re absolutely right — for every hour of slack, there are hours upon hours of focused love to support! 🙂

    • Naomi Goodlet on 30 April, 2014 at 11:11 pm said:

      Definitely! We need to remember and acknowledge the GOOD and stop beating ourselves up about the bad stuff – there’s not as much of it as we think! x

  14. I love your honesty and how you share openly what provably many women are beating themselves up for doing. I do not have a child, but am sure it is a lot of work. Children need so much attention and mothers have their own needs too. It´s your divine right to have your needs met and to keep the balance you do the best you can do with what you know and have at any given moment. It´s time for moms to free themselves of the guilt syndrome. Thank you Naomi for your contribution. XO

  15. Dr. Amanda Noelle on 29 April, 2014 at 7:29 pm said:

    I drank it in when you said “That there makes you a kick-ass woman!” Even though I am not a mommy yet, just hearing these words puts me at ease. It’s like we’re programmed to believe we’re not good enough, meant to be perfect, save the world…when all we need is to feel enough, like kick ass women! Thank you darling, this was great Naomi.

    • Naomi Goodlet on 30 April, 2014 at 11:09 pm said:

      Thanks Amanda! Yes, so many women (not just mothers) cause themselves to suffer by believing that they should be doing more, when in fact they should be celebrating where they are!

  16. Angela May on 30 April, 2014 at 5:51 am said:

    I had my baby boy when I was 19 and I had nothing except LOVE to give him. (Literally, I had no-thing) So I swore that above all else I would give him self-esteem. He’s now a confident/loving young man! 🙂

  17. Alix Sabatelli Rager on 30 April, 2014 at 6:35 pm said:

    OOOOooooo! You bet this resonates! I think the best part of being a work-from-home mom, with all it’s ups and downs – are all the ups and downs! The resourcefulness we teach our children, the commitment, the balance, the strength, the courage, the purpose….. need I go on? My girls are now 12 and almost 16. Been working since they were toddlers. They call me their role model and we are so tight! xoxo

  18. I might not be a mom, but I so honor the energy of just being yourself, your best you, even when it comes to parenting. We’re not here to be perfect. Intention is everything. and yes, although you already know, you ARE a great mom 🙂 thanks for being open and real Naomi

  19. Jesse Webb on 30 April, 2014 at 11:22 pm said:

    Love! You’re absolutely right. Preach it, sister! Sooo love that you’re talking about this. 🙂

  20. Naomi,
    I am a great mama to my clients because i offer my full attention to them and brain storm ideas for them, seeping healing support and energy to them and most importantly I CELEBRATE AND REFLECT THEIR SUCCESS TO THEM. thank you for opening the space to own my brilliance.
    with love,
    christel arcucci

  21. Pingback: The Biggest Mistake I Made as a New Mama - Birthing in Conscious Choice

  22. Pingback: Babywearing – When You Are A First Time Mum | Norwich Sling Library Blog

  23. Pingback: The Best of 2014 |

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Post Navigation